My word for 2020 is “Me”. Be myself, focus on my health, focus on me, do the things I want.
I don’t talk about myself very much, usually I just keep to my projects and Quilty stuff, as its easier to hide. I love this community, and want to be more involved, continue building deeper friendships and to me this means sharing more of me. The good and the bad.
2019 was a challenging year for me for so many reasons but I also had some amazing adventures. Experiences in 2019 are definitely driving my goals for 2020.
I was so lucky last year to start my year off on a retreat with Amy Butler and Valori Wells in Morocco. It was one of the greatest things I have every experienced. Great friendships were formed, and mind blowing experience in color and inspiration. Highly recommend!!
I took a break from work and family, and went to New York for a long weekend. We walked 60,000 steps in 3 days, took great photos, talked art, architecture and Quilty things, saw and experienced so many places, and had great food.
Getting to spend time with my friends is always a highlight. Three events really stood out for my this year that really warmed my heart:
- Spending time at QuiltCon and catching up with people IRL was very rewarding and exhausting all at once
- Being involved in the Monster Drawing Rally at the North Carolina Museum of Arts, and having friends come out and support me.
- Having a girls weekend away, where we celebrated birthdays, did a mini quilt swap, sewed, talked, ate good food and drank a little wine.
Lastly, as a family we just got back from 2 weeks in Hawaii. It was so good just to spend time with each other, enjoy life away from the daily stresses and just reconnect. We loved the warm weather and all the great activities that nature had to offer.
These adventures helped with the balance, I so desperately try to accomplish every year. My biggest realization this year is that I needed to be even more flexible than I thought I was. Life is not something you control, things happen and you just have to adapt.
I came to a realization that I was suffering from intermittent panic attacks. I never had them previous, just in the last 18 months or so I had 3-4 episodes where I thought I was going to die. It is so scary in the moment, getting pins and needles in your fingers, worried you are having a heart attack, mentally telling yourself you are fine it’s just panic but you’re not really in control. Finally, I talked this over with my primary care physician and we have a plan that involves improving my health, both physical and mental (by working on stress) and a plan for medication and relaxation exercises when I need it. So far, it has been going ok (no episodes in 6 months) but I need to refocus on the health starting this week, as its lapsed the last two months (mostly due to a change at work).
I am a director at a large software company. It is an amazing company to work for and have done so for 21 years. I feel I have been successful in a, typically, male dominated environment. I want to share that success and have been working on supporting other women in my team to be successful and help them grow their careers. My job definitely influences the stress I feel. I think I have been balancing the stress better the last 12 month but I still have a lot to learn. I need to be there for my team, as many people depend on me to make decisions, handle escalations and lead them to success, but I also need to find personal balance.
First off, I have to say I have the most supportive and loving husband anyone could ask for. He understands my need to hide away from people, even though he loves being around people. He knows I sometimes need down time which means tv or sewing in the evening or spending the whole weekend in my PJ’s. He also has chosen to be interested in my hobby and supports me by taking on child care when I am out teaching or on a retreat, he offers advise when asked.
But y’all, parenting is hard sometimes.
We are very lucky to also have a great 12 year old boy who is very caring. He loves animals and is so wanting a dog. He is a very logical and methodical thinker, and it’s so interesting watching him process things. He is a fun kid and still asks for cuddles before bed most nights.
School, though, has been very challenging this year. This is 7th grade for him. He has dyslexia and already works with an individual education plan and his teachers offer him a lot of support. This year is the year of introducing independence, speaking up and asking for help for himself. He has been struggling with this and with organization which meant he does not keep up. The last two weeks of both semesters, there was a lot of catch-up work and rework needed. This meant working until 11pm sometimes and in the weekend and us supporting him. To help him focus, he went without electronics for two weeks until he got caught up (we already have a 15 hour limit per week but that was dropped to 0 hours). We have had tears, seen stress a pre-teen can encounter with school (unfortunately), and also his drive in trying to be successful. We have a plan for next semester and hoping to see a huge improvement. By the way, we are continuing no electronics Monday through Thursday as he was a different kid and was more focused without devices.
So quilting….this hobby brings me balance. It also has brought some of the best people into my life. Last year, other things though had to priority, so I had to make some tough decisions. I stopped submitting to magazines, I reduced my teaching and had a really slow start with projects as my energy was else where. When I quilted I really wanted it to be for enjoyment.
Plan for 2020
Thinking about what would be best for “me” this year is a priority. So the plan is a looser than normal but here it is.
- Working on my health with exercise, good eating practices and finding better ways to deal with stress are first on the list.
- Spending more quality time with family – this means sticking to our device free Tuesdays and Thursdays, and a monthly activity around North Carolina.
- I worry about where we are as a community (as a whole) and the state of the world, so I am creating opportunities to give back – I plan on giving away quilts where they are needed, continuing supporting women at work, supporting kids in giving them opportunities, and contributing to some key organizations that are doing good in this world.
- I am going to focus on Quilty things I enjoy, and not overcommit this year as I work on life balance. I do still want to look for opportunities to share my art and take a couple of leaps but not stress or over think about them. I also have some key teaching opportunities I am looking forward to – QuiltCon (Austin) and Quilter’s Affair (Sisters, Oregon).
Thanks for sticking through my look back of 2019. I am excited about 2020. I would love to hear from you all about your chosen word for this year, your goals, or life challenges.
I do not have a word for the year. I have two quilt goals this year. I am an introvert but I have submitted my application to the local quilt guild in the new town I moved to last year. My goal is to attend three meetings or workshops. It may sound simple but this will be quite traumatic for me. Interfacing with people on line is so much easier than people in person. My second goal is to get it estimate of what I can sell my diamond for. I will get more use out of a long arm that jewelry. I hope you can maintain balance in your life. Investing time in yourself is an investment in your family.
Thanks for sharing. I don’t have a word, but my goals are similar – more time with family and more time for creativity.
My word is balance. I have always been driven but last year I pushed too hard and ended up sick a lot, I have Lupus so eventually I had to reassess how I go about things. I worked with a nutritionist to get my weight up and I feel better but she told me (we’ve been friends for a long time) that I cannot keep pushing myself beyond my limits and although I have learned in my life how to achieve, it will always be at my own cost unless I learn balance. I can relate to so much of your New Year resolution, I have had panic attacks in the past and I can tell you with a life change they really can pass. You have an awful lot on your plate! I also need alone time in PJ’s but I’m OK with that. Happy New Year! X
Hi Michelle, I always read your blog but this is the first time I am moved to comment. I’m not sure exactly why this is but I really like that you shared some of your personal challenges and thoughtful goals for the new year. I feel a deeper connection to you as a person and not only as an amazingly talented quilter/ designer. I love that “ME” is your word for 2020. It sounds like you are off to an amazing year!
Hi Michelle! Fabulous recap of a wonderful year along with obtainable goals for 2020. Can’t wait to hear what’s up first. ~smile~ Roseanne
I’m new to your community but I understand you. Funny enough I did a post today on my word of the year, similar in some ways though it sounds the opposite. “open the door” I have panic attacks that lead to fainting. Scary. I am also worried about our country and the direction the world is taking in general. Your son is learning that life can be harder on some and they just work through it anyway. I worked in the school system and it is necessarily geared to the middle road, so if you travel the high or low roads it’s a bit harder on you. He can do it! So can you. You know how to take care of yourself, and will learn a lot this year with this word. Do you listen to Brenne Brown??? she’s so wise, on TED talks. LeeAnna at not afraid of color
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Do you travel in NC to teach classes?